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Bubby and the Boys

Here’s a link to the article as it appeared in Hamodia, and the text of the article follows:

Bubby_and_the_Boys.pdf

A boy’s cheder ends late, and even when he gets out early on Sundays, it might be close to dark. And that’s without Masmidim or Friday and Motzoei Shabbos learning programs. If Mommy hardly gets a change to spend time with her boys, what can Bubby hope for? Despite all this, determined grandmothers have found ways to bond with their grandsons, from the very youngest, who admittedly are more available, all the way up to the yeshivah bachurim.

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Two Secret Ingredients for Becoming a Kind Mother-in-law

by Miriam Hendeles

Okay, time for a little boasting: It’s no secret that I have a loving and healthy relationship with my daughters-in-law. I enjoy and respect my sons’ wives, and although each one is very different from the other, I feel very blessed to have them in my life.

So when the subject of mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law (MIL’s and DIL’s)  comes up amongst friends, people want to know how I do it. How do I refrain from criticizing, meddling, and otherwise experiencing negativity between myself and my sons’ wives?

My answer usually has more to do with how I raised my sons, than how I interact at the present moment with them and their wives. I think becoming a good mother-in-law has to start from when the kids are small.

Good Mothering = Good Mother-in-lawing:

I recall talking to a child development specialist when my kids were small about something that was going on with one of my children. I remember thinking  aloud and saying, “Oh, I sure hope I will be a good mother-in-law some day.”

To which this child expert responded “If you’re a good mother, then you’re a good mother-in-law.”

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