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Two Secret Ingredients for Becoming a Kind Mother-in-law

by Miriam Hendeles

Okay, time for a little boasting: It’s no secret that I have a loving and healthy relationship with my daughters-in-law. I enjoy and respect my sons’ wives, and although each one is very different from the other, I feel very blessed to have them in my life.

So when the subject of mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law (MIL’s and DIL’s)  comes up amongst friends, people want to know how I do it. How do I refrain from criticizing, meddling, and otherwise experiencing negativity between myself and my sons’ wives?

My answer usually has more to do with how I raised my sons, than how I interact at the present moment with them and their wives. I think becoming a good mother-in-law has to start from when the kids are small.

Good Mothering = Good Mother-in-lawing:

I recall talking to a child development specialist when my kids were small about something that was going on with one of my children. I remember thinking  aloud and saying, “Oh, I sure hope I will be a good mother-in-law some day.”

To which this child expert responded “If you’re a good mother, then you’re a good mother-in-law.”

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