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Bubby and the Boys

Here’s a link to the article as it appeared in Hamodia, and the text of the article follows:


A boy’s cheder ends late, and even when he gets out early on Sundays, it might be close to dark. And that’s without Masmidim or Friday and Motzoei Shabbos learning programs. If Mommy hardly gets a change to spend time with her boys, what can Bubby hope for? Despite all this, determined grandmothers have found ways to bond with their grandsons, from the very youngest, who admittedly are more available, all the way up to the yeshivah bachurim.

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Playing It Rough

Here’s a link to the article as it appeared in Hamodia, and the text of the article follows:


They called the game Lion. Or Tiger. Or Cheetah. The nuances between them were clear to the boys but lost on me. All I saw was an inordinate amount of pacing on couches and strategically placed chairs, periodically punctuated by charges, pounces and pummeling of rival cats or unsuspecting prey. They insisted that it was a game, that it was FUN, that everyone involved wanted to play, and that the victim would soon rise, of course, only to be attacked again. Not my idea of entertainment. Then my son went to play at a friend’s house. That night as I put him to bed we spoke about his day. “We played the best game at Mendy’s house!”* he said. “It’s called Moving Truck.’You open up the zipper on the blanket, and a few kids go inside. Then the other boy rolls everyone up inside the blanket, and he kicks you off the bed.” He laughed at the memory. “Wow! That was fun!”

“Oka-a-ay … And no one got hurt?”
“No, we were giggling the whole time.”

Well. At least the timing was right. With this article in the works, Mendy’s mother could expect my call.

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Girl in a Boy House/Boy in a Girl House

Here’s a link to the article as it appeared in Hamodia, and the text of the article follows:



Boy in a Girl House/Girl in a Boy House

By Beily Paluch

“I really enjoyed the article in this week’s Inyan magazine about families with only boys or only girls.  An interesting follow up might be interviewing parents who have one boy or one girl among siblings of the opposite gender. Title suggestion: “the lonely onlies.”” – Bassie Friedman.*

Writing for Inyan magazine is rewarding in and of itself, but it is especially gratifying when readers take the time to share their feedback.  In this case, we were happy to accommodate the letter-writer, especially as material for this article was already partially collected in my files!
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In a Boy House/In a Girl House

In a Boy House/In a Girl House

By Beily Paluch

Here’s a link to the article as it appeared in Hamodia:


When my first five boys were little, the energy level in our house hardly ever dropped below medium-to-high.  In fact, I developed a ”scientific”  theory that this energy multiplies exponentially with each consecutive boy, as the brothers feed off each other’s exuberance and become a force much greater than the sum of its parts.

One lively afternoon, coming on the heels of a hectic morning, I tried to maintain my equilibrium among whatever game of concert, zoo or police was the selection of the day.  In the midst of the chaos, I closed my eyes, covered my ears, and indulged in positive imagery.  The image?  Five docile daughters, sitting at a table in the playroom, coloring rainbows.  One creates, others copy. The only time I’m interrupted is to answer the question, “Is it nice?”

Interviewing mothers of all-girl and all-boy families for this article gave me the opportunity to revisit my daydream, as we candidly shared what it’s like “in a boy house” and “in a girl house.”


Who’s who?
“In a boy house”

Chana Malka C., 4 boys under age 5

Tzipora F., 4 boys under age 7

Devory L., 6 boys under 14

Ruchie M., 7 boys under 17


“In a girl house”

Leah T., oldest of six sisters

Esty M., 5 girls under 11

Toby B., 8 girls under 16

Sharon D., 5 girls age 10 – 20

Brochie, 2 girls under 7


What do your children like to do together?

Chana Malka:Play with cars, tag, play in the sand, one pretends to be a dog and chases the others around.

Tzipora: Play fight, rough and tumble, piling on top of each other.

Devory: Whatever they do, they do it together!  You will rarely find one reading a book alone.  When one goes outside to play, they are all outside playing; when one or two want to play board games, everyone needs to be part of the game.

Esty: Play house for hours.  School. Teacher.  Therapist.  We have shelves of dolls and accessories, dress-up clothes, kitchen sets, and art supplies.

Toby:  Sing camp songs, G.O. songs, choirs with the motions. They also love doing dances from school performances .

Sharon: They like to shop and play games.  They also like to cook.
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Trip Tips for Chol Hamoed, Summer Fridays or Anytime

(To see the article as it appeared in Hamodia, click the link below)


Dread the Chol Hamoed refrain of ‘where are we going today’?  Just as you prepare your menus and groceries in advance, and you make sure everyone has fresh white shirts and new hair bows, it’s worthwhile to take the time during the weeks leading up to Yom Tov and plan your Chol Hamoed.

I remember leaving a place at 3:30 pm.  We had been there since 11:00 am, and had enjoyed immensely.  I couldn’t help noticing the long lines of frum families waiting to enter.  Entrance fee was over ten dollars per person, and the place closed at 5:00.

It was a shame that they had traveled so far, and would be paying so much for such a short time.  If you’re going to take your family out, you might as well be smart about it!

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Preparing Boys for a Simcha

Preparing Boys for a Simcha

Click the link below for a PDF of this article as it appeared in the Hamodia Simcha Suppement, Feb 12, 2014


It was a busy Simcha season.  When I met friends, they would ask, “So how’s it going with the wedding?” and then, “Oh you have boys. Boys are easy.”

So why was I finding it so hard to get ready?

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