In a Boy House/In a Girl House
By Beily Paluch
Here’s a link to the article as it appeared in Hamodia:
When my first five boys were little, the energy level in our house hardly ever dropped below medium-to-high. In fact, I developed a ”scientific” theory that this energy multiplies exponentially with each consecutive boy, as the brothers feed off each other’s exuberance and become a force much greater than the sum of its parts.
One lively afternoon, coming on the heels of a hectic morning, I tried to maintain my equilibrium among whatever game of concert, zoo or police was the selection of the day. In the midst of the chaos, I closed my eyes, covered my ears, and indulged in positive imagery. The image? Five docile daughters, sitting at a table in the playroom, coloring rainbows. One creates, others copy. The only time I’m interrupted is to answer the question, “Is it nice?”
Interviewing mothers of all-girl and all-boy families for this article gave me the opportunity to revisit my daydream, as we candidly shared what it’s like “in a boy house” and “in a girl house.”
“In a boy house”
Chana Malka C., 4 boys under age 5
Tzipora F., 4 boys under age 7
Devory L., 6 boys under 14
Ruchie M., 7 boys under 17
“In a girl house”
Leah T., oldest of six sisters
Esty M., 5 girls under 11
Toby B., 8 girls under 16
Sharon D., 5 girls age 10 – 20
Brochie, 2 girls under 7
What do your children like to do together?
Chana Malka:Play with cars, tag, play in the sand, one pretends to be a dog and chases the others around.
Tzipora: Play fight, rough and tumble, piling on top of each other.
Devory: Whatever they do, they do it together! You will rarely find one reading a book alone. When one goes outside to play, they are all outside playing; when one or two want to play board games, everyone needs to be part of the game.
Esty: Play house for hours. School. Teacher. Therapist. We have shelves of dolls and accessories, dress-up clothes, kitchen sets, and art supplies.
Toby: Sing camp songs, G.O. songs, choirs with the motions. They also love doing dances from school performances .
Sharon: They like to shop and play games. They also like to cook.