Call me archaic if you will, I’m one of those who walks into the delivery room with NO IDEA what it’s going to be!
By the time I was expecting my fourth, though, I was getting rather antsy. With three boys at home, could I wait nine months to know what this baby would be?
On the other hand, as the stakes got higher, it somehow seemed more important NOT to know. First of all, forget it, it would be impossible to keep it a secret. You know how people are when they’re hoping you’ll have that first girl, they’ll try any tactic to trip you up! But beyond that, it’s hard to feel exultant about an anonymous ‘nother boy’, and maybe, just maybe, I would feel a bit disappointed for the rest of the pregnancy. And maybe when that boy would be born, I would greet him with ‘duh.’ I don’t know, I never tried! But I knew with absolute certainty that after difficult labor, when the baby of newly discovered gender would be placed, ruddy and healthy, in my arms, I would be euphoric either way, girl or boy. And that was something I didn’t want to risk losing!
So I chose to remain uninformed, and I’m glad I did.
And then, I was expecting number six. By that time, what can I say? I was feeling the pressure. It wasn’t me, I was okay having another boy, but I knew my friends were starting to feel weird. Like, what would they say to me if it was a(nother) boy?
So I took matters into my own hands. All through my ninth month, I coached my friends. “Listen to what you’re going to say if I have another boy: ‘Another boy?!!!! That’s amazing! Lucky you – six boys…wow!’ And not only that…you know the present you’re dreaming of buying me when I have my girl? I want it now…I deserve it twice as much if I have another boy!”
That arranged, I could enter my tenth month (yeah, yeah) with a load off my shoulders. I didn’t have to worry about pity calls and half-hearted mazel tovs, I knew my friends would come through for me.
And then, it was a girl! A darling, pink pink pinkety-pink girl…
But the pressure wasn’t off yet. You think as soon as you have a girl, you can breathe and have another ten boys? Not until bas yechida has a sister!